LDR

Long distance relationship or some call it LDR. There are a lot for people who would settle for this kind of thing rather than being in a real thing.

The typical or rather practical “Filipina/Filipino” will enter in this kind of setup para maka-ahon sa hirap! Maraming foreigners or “Afams” naman jan na magiging solution sa poverty. Exotica Filipina… that’s the term me and my friends always use whenever we’re seeing a native and a foreign couple walking together on a street. Not that we’re mocking them but rather we’re happy na tuluy tuloy ang pagpasok ng dolyares sa Pinas na nakakasagip ng ating tourism! Ok kidding aside… whatever the needs of both parties why they end up together, it’s really none of our business! My dad met my Chinese-Filipina step mom through this long distance love affair. Dad’s in Manila and step mom is in Virginia. They stayed in LDR for roughly 3-4 years they’ve been Skype-ing  before they end up getting married. Now they’re together and I’m happy for them specially for my Dad. And because of this, I realized na may maganda rin palang kinakahinatnan sa ganitong setup.

Normally this kind of relationship occurs if you’re the type of person who almost spend your whole life in the cyber world. You don’t mind the molds and mildew or any type of fungi growing on your back bones or in your ass for as long as you’re online and connected! Some people meet their cyber bfs or gfs thru online gaming. Most are from different kinds of online dating websites. I used to be a victim of this kind of addiction. And yes, I met someone before! We caught each other’s interest regardless of our color and it doesn’t matter if this person lives on the other side of the world. And we consider ourselves as “us” for 2 years… It was fun but I guess I grew tired of sitting in front of my computer and wanted the real thing.

On the other hand. Some people can settle for this kind of setup because they might got tired of doing the real thing. Prolly ilang beses na nasaktan, kasi pwedeng isipin na it will be less painful and less responsibility kapag LDR. When in fact it’s the exact opposite. Pano pag namimiss mo may kayakap?  Or gusto mong may maka date? Mas prone din ito sa lahat ng temptations. Dito na rin masusukat ang trust  ninyo. It would be much better kung before eh magkasama kayo and one of you needs to go away lang talaga kasi kahit papaano malaki na ang “trust fund” as compare to starting it ng malayo kayo sa isa’t isa but then again, much better but it doesn’t mean na it’s much easier! Yung iba naman, kaya gusto ng LDR is because they want something different. Something unique! Because maybe this is their way of doing the so called “spark checking”. But the question is, how long can you sustain that spark in a long distance relationship?

People loves to complicate their lives sometimes. Maybe it’s because they want to prove something for themselves… And I seriously respect that!